Maximum Happiness for Men

How do you navigate today's world for maximum happiness for men?

Focus on the basics.  The same way men have succeeded in the past. The same way men will develop happiness in the future.

  • Work.  How you earn your keep.
  • Location.  Where you live and your type of living situation.
  • Strength.  Being strong helps.
  • Big Experience. These give you something to look forward to and the memories can sustain you in times of minimal excitement.
  • Contentment.  Just enjoying little things without spending a lot of money or requiring huge inputs of energy.
  • Avoiding or getting out of huge problems.  When life is miserable, you will not be happy.

Maximum Happiness for Men with Your Work

Earning a living is the key to your life as a man.

This needs to be a huge continuous focus your entire life.

Everything flows from your income.  The happier you are with how you do this, the time you spend, the amount of money that flows from this the better your life will be.

I have a bunch of articles about work linking from this page - Be Happier at Work.

Definition of a Good Job Video

I made this video when I was taking a vacation between my old job that wasn't working for me at all and before I started my dream job.  It's been over 3 years and my dream job is still a dream job.

Maximum Happiness with Your Location

You deserve maximum happiness with your place in the world. 

This is not easy and you may need to keep moving around until you find some place that is more you.

I have moved countless times, all trying to find the spot the suits me best.  I have been close a few times in the past, but I think I have settled into a location now that is best for me, at least for this time in my life.

It's a medium-sized college town in the Midwest.  All the major conveniences are close by.  It is mostly safe.  It is a desirable place to be.  There is usually something fun going on year around.  It is about an hour drive to my mom's house.  It is a little over an hour's drive to see my kids.  My old friends are a few hours away.  And I've made new friends here.

The best thing is I am a 10 minute walk to my dream job.

I've also set up my home for my own personal comfort and convenience.  It is easy to spend time here.  It is easy to enjoy.  I can be here happily alone or with some guests.

Where a Happier Man Might Live Video

Strength

A Happier Man building strengthA Happier Man Building Strength

Being "strong as hell" is an advantage in life.  You tend to not be afraid.  You walk differently.  Your confidence improves.  Life is better.

The best advice for weight training, gaining strength, building muscle, avoiding injury, setting realistic expectations, aging well and having fun doing it is -

Starting Strength

Here are some links to various articles I've written about strength related topics:

I've just loved weight training from the first moment I tried it in high school and now 40 some years later.  I've made my share of mistakes in my quest to be strong related to how I approach it, getting over-trained and sick and also how hard I go at and getting injured.

But if you can get things dialed down to an appropriate level for you, you can make enormous progress without getting sick and injured.

The research is starting to show and the anecdotal evidence stares at us in the face, that weight training may be the best thing you could do for yourself now and as you age.

Obtain Maximum Happiness for Men Means Understanding that Experiences Come in Waves

The major fun of life will always be in the form of large experiences that are memorable.

The problem is expecting that these experiences should be constant.

They're not.

Experiences are like the tides.  They come in, they go out.  They may even be out for quite some time.  If you don't realize the tide is out...that big experiences are not possible for you now...you will get frustrated and try to force things.

This is a huge mistake.

If you can enjoy the times of big experiences without the expectation that this will be an all the time thing, you can more easily relax and enjoy the memory without getting uptight about...why aren't I having a better time?

Big Experiences That I Have Loved

  • Buying my Ford F150
  • Buying my recent vehicle, a Lexus GX 470
  • My first epic trip to Jackson Wyoming
  • Other western trips to Boulder Colorado and Black Hills South Dakota
  • My huge western trip across Iowa, Missouri, Kansas, Oklahoma, Texas, New Mexico, Colorado, Utah, Wyoming and Nebraska
  • My recent western trip to Colorado Springs, Cody Wyoming and Yellowstone National Park
  • My trip to Las Vegas
  • Moving to my current apartment
  • Tailgating before the big college football games
  • Getting my dream job
  • Planning more epic travels in the future

Contentment with Little Things

The contentment with little things follows right behind the experiences comes in waves idea. 

While the tide is out, there is no big experience for you to enjoy now, you can just enjoy the little things.  You are content just the way things are.  You have stocked your life with little things and you can just happily enjoy the downtime while the tide is building back up again for another major experience.

Little thing that make me happy:

  • Spending a few dollars and a few hours at a nice coffee shop.  Thinking, planning and writing.
  • Sitting in the sun.
  • Having a nice drink to unwind late in the day.
  • Sleeping in when I'm tired.
  • Taking a nap when I need it.
  • Reading
  • Watching YouTube
  • Watching movies
  • Watching sports on TV but carefully avoiding the things around sports that make me angry.
  • Reflecting back on my life both the good things and in gratitude for getting past the bad things.
  • Writing and reviewing my Journal entries.

Avoid Huge Problems or Get Out of Them

Often, big experiences come in the form of events that are easy to lose control of yourself.  Excessive alcohol and drugs, for example.  It's better to avoid the risk involved and stay in control of yourself.

Patience helps to avoid big problems.  Realize that not everything will come to you easily and at the time you expect.  If you can avoid forcing things or wanting things exactly when you want them, avoiding huge problems is simpler.

I didn't avoid the huge problem of marrying someone who was not good to me.  But I did find a way to get out of the mess I found myself in.  I describe the issues I dealt with and how I was able to leave a marriage that was not good for me in "Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System."

Maximum Happiness for Men Wrap Up

You can be enormously happy.  You deserve it.  You don't have to continue to live an unhappy, mediocre life.  A great life is waiting for you if you just get busy and create it.

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The only way I could become the happier man I am today was by leaving my wife.  You might be in the same situation I was in.  I suggest you take a look at my book - Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.

Click to go to learn more about the book

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