You think you need to leave your wife. But you're not sure if you can actually go through with it.
It's a big step. It's huge. It's scary. What about the bills? What about the kids? What about the house and the 401K? What about the family? What about your commitment? What about your religion? What about god?
When you start to think about it and search the internet, all the normal advice talks about the effect of your leaving on others. No one seems to care about you and what you are going through.
You only hear something about how your happiness would inconvenience others and it is your duty to stay no matter what.
This is what you mostly hear
With all that going on in the background you never tell anyone you might need to leave your wife.
Who are you even going to tell? Certainly not your wife. You know she is not the type of person you can confide in. Maybe a close friend. The problem is you've been married so long, your whole world is being a husband. Besides your friends are busy with their own lives and problems. Probably not even your family. You want them to not be suspicious of your wife.
You just keep your pain and misery bottled up inside you, put your head down and try to survive.
You smile even if you are miserable. You tolerate whatever is going on. You put on an act. You just try to be tougher and stoically
deal with it. You go to work early and stay late. You find excuses to
avoid her. You tip-toe around her and try to make her happy.
But you and I know how hard it is to deal with it.
I used to be like you. Not knowing what to do. Having no one to talk to. No one who understood what I was going through. Timid and afraid of my wife. Dominated and controlled by her. Sometimes getting screamed at. Certainly belittled, shamed and coerced into doing what I did not want to and feeling terrible about myself. I was verbally abused and became a shell of the man I used to be.
And I was not really the man I wanted to be before I got married anyway. I was hoping that being married to a good woman would help me become a better, satisfied man.
But instead of being loved, happy, satisfied with a good wife and building a future together, I went backwards. I did not enjoy my days or look forward to the future. I just tried to make it through the day without getting screamed at or lectured.
The bills were always piled high too. Never any breathing room. She could spend money at a furious pace and if I mentioned slowing down the spending, or taking it easy for a few months...watch out. There would be hell to pay.
At a minimum, she would say alright and then spend more anyway behind my back.
There was always the drama and chaos. She was either fighting with her family, making a scene in public or doing extremely disruptive things like starting a big remodeling project, buying some huge piece of furniture that needed assembly or agreeing to host a huge family party and then expecting me to pick up the pieces, do all the work and pay for it all. It was frustrating, expensive and exhausting.
The worst was that I lived under her verbal abuse for years. Taking it. Absorbing it. Believing it.
I had no control over my life. No happiness. Only brief moments of good while waiting for another episode of bad.
You have no chance of a good life if you are married to a bad woman. And there seems to be a lot more bad women than good women nowadays.
There certainly seems to be a fairly large share of women behaving badly. Of course I do not have percentages, only a feeling from observing the world.
Worrying about percentages of good marriages and good women
is an incredibly stupid waste of your time and life anyway.
Percentages do not matter if your life sucks.
I wish this was not true.
I wish every man could experience a wonderful, happy marriage with a woman who adores you and loves you for who you are not who she thinks she has to mold and shape.
A woman who has your back. Who would not even think of criticizing you or doing something major without getting your blessing. A woman who would gladly stand by the decisions you made for the good of your family. A woman you love to be with and happily work together with.
A woman who is responsible and not so blasted difficult to live with and so high maintenance.
Your reality is a woman who spends all your money on foolish desires without any considerations for how you want to live your life and your future.
A woman who seems to loves to use sarcastic remarks to cut you down. Not only privately, but publicly. Not only in front of her friends, but your friends and family. Maybe even in front of your own children.
Your reality is a woman who mocks and humiliates you.
Your reality is being exhausted trying to please her and putting up with her tantrums and ultimatums.
A woman who yells and screams. A woman who finds fault with
you at almost every turn and who sees nothing wrong with spending a few
hours lecturing you on your faults.
This is the extremely miserable life you are in, isn't it?
Your marriage may have started out pretty good. A happy wedding day. Plenty of sex in the early days. She was working and seemed to be happy to be contributing to her share of the bills and saving money for your future together. She would ask you about everything major and even everything minor. She loved you and thought you were the greatest.
But not now. You're not exactly sure when or why it went bad. But it is certainly bad now.
You're not sure what to do. You don't know what to do, or what you are up against. Worse, your confidence is gone and you are afraid of upsetting her, afraid to talk to her about it and even afraid to think about leaving her.
You don't know what to do and do not even know who you can talk to.
Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System
...for you. Because you are living an extremely limited and miserable life. You are living now as I was living then.
You are a good man, living a horrible life and you don't know what to do.
This book is what to do.
IMPORTANT
The book is a downloadable PDF. I will not mail you anything. This is not a paper book for your wife to find and make your miserable life even worse. You will need to discreetly download the book and save it onto your computer where your wife will not find it and you can read it in private.
This is the book I wish I had years ago, right when my life starting to get bad. I would have not wasted years of my precious life staying married to the wrong woman.
I stumbled onto the 3 step system accidentally. I did not have anyone to guide me. I guided myself.
The system is the key to leave your wife. Follow it and your life gets better. Don't follow it and your life gets worse.
I was sitting in the living room of our big suburban home late one winter night trying to calmly explain to my wife that her criticisms, threats, putdowns, demands, excessive sarcasm and verbal abuse was not acceptable to me anymore. I told her I’ve had enough and I needed her to make changes in how she treated me.
“Write down what you want from me!” My wife screamed as she stood over me seething in rage.
I took out a sheet of paper and pen and wrote in big letters across it…BE NICE… and handed it to her.
That was it. That was my request.
She looked at it, crumpled the paper and threw it back at me in disgust. “I can’t do that,” she snapped and stormed off.
This was nothing new to me. I was used to my wife screaming at me, lecturing me, blaming me, finding fault and criticizing me for almost everything I did. She called me names, created unnecessary drama and chaos, spent money at a furious pace and caused problems on an almost weekly basis.
I stayed up late and got up early to work hard at work to pay for our nice lifestyle and even harder at home bending over backwards to try to please her. But nothing was ever good enough.
I was exhausted, fat, flabby, weak, pale, broke and old before my time.
Even worse, I was frustrated, unhappy, miserable and even suicidal at times with no hope of a good future.
That was my life then, but not
anymore. I am free from her and have
become a happier man in total control of my life.
IMPORTANT
The book is a downloadable PDF. I will not mail you anything. This is not a paper book for your wife to find and make your miserable life even worse. You will need to discreetly download the book and save it onto your computer where your wife will not find it and you can read it in private.
You need -
Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System
if you:
...then this book was written specifically for YOU. It’s nearly 200 pages of principles and techniques that has been successfully used by me to leave my bad marriage behind, start over and become the extremely happier man I am today.
Nothing is as bad as being married to a bad wife.
Nothing is as good, as leaving her, starting over and recreating your life as you desire.
In Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System, you will learn specific, step-by-step techniques to:
Happier men have been leaving their difficult wives and making massive improvements in their lives.
How much more of your life are you going to waste with a bad wife?
How much more of her bad behavior are you going to tolerate?
How many of your desires for how you want to live your life are you going to squash down while you bend over backwards trying to please an unreasonable wife?
How many more times will you be cut down by your wife?
Mr. Hans,
Thank you for writing your book. (Leave Your Wife & Become A Happier Man with the 3 Step System). It's helping me get my mind right. I was reluctant to marry my wife but I always had a hard time pinpointing exactly why. I finally succumbed to the family and societal pressure and thought I was doing the right thing and asked her to marry me. I thought some of the problems we had while dating would go away once we committed ourselves to each other... I was wrong and it's gotten worse. It's only been 8 months.
I won't go into everything but she hits me and shoves me when she's angry at me. She doesn't like my family, any of my friends, and my hobbies. She says they are all a bad influence on me and that I prioritize my hobbies over her. She hasn't taken my last name and says she hates my last name. She is always suspicious that I am checking out other women and monitors my location and phone. She is an extremely jealous person. I bring in more money and do most of the work around the house like cooking and cleaning, but I am always the problem with our messy house and lack of money (she spends it all on clothes, shoes, makeup, and anything else she deems necessary). My truck has needed a new clutch for about 6 months and she won't agree to fix it for 1000 bucks but spent 750 last weekend on makeup, clothes, and groceries for her sister and family.
I have tried to change everything about myself to make her happy and I don't think anything can make her happy. I have felt so utterly alone and while I have prayed to God to end my life so I can be out of this relationship. I don't even know who am I anymore. I live in a constant state of stress and everyday she finds a way to get mad at me and remind me how I am doing everything wrong. She has never forgiven me for anything.
Here is a list of things she has said to me since getting married:
I could go on and on, but I think you see the point.
We rent, I make ~95K as a scientist at an engineering firm, we have no kids. This should be a straightforward process for me.
I am ready to start becoming a happier man.
All the best and thank you Sir,
A reader of Leave Your Wife & Become A Happier Man.
Comments on this letter from a happier man:
Reading the abuse this man went through brings tears to my eyes. No one should have to suffer this type of behavior.
But I did and he did and I know many of you are suffering like this too.
Get the book - Leave Your Wife & Become A Happier Man with the 3 Step System.
Your world has changed. The wife who adored you and
thought you did no wrong, now seems to spend all her time plotting up
new ways to create drama and chaos for you to exhaust yourself dealing
with. She seems to take delight in criticizing you, mocking and
humiliating in many different ways, sometimes even in front of others.
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Hi Hans,
This book is amazing. I can’t believe it isn’t on the top of the NYT bestsellers list. There is so much great information there. For 20 years I have been in a relationship like the one you described. I am struggling with the realization that I this go on so long without doing anything about it. I rented an apartment on the down low and have started preparations to move. I am being careful though as I do believe my safety could be an issue. I am definitely willing to pay the price to get out of the box.
Your book is super helpful.
Thank you
Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System was written for:
This picture reminds me in my married days. Very overweight. Wearing ugly clothes. Falling asleep at my desk even though I was drinking massive amounts of caffeine and gorging on junk food.
I was exhausted dealing with the demands from my wife. I never slept that much at home and never had any time to take care of myself.
My life was not my own. I bent over backwards for my wife and lived a miserable life because of it.
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IMPORTANT
Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System is a downloadable PDF. I will not mail you anything. This is not a paper book for your wife to find and make your miserable life even worse. You will need to discreetly download the book and save it onto your computer where your wife will not find it and you can read it in private.
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IMPORTANT
Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System is a downloadable PDF. I will not mail you anything. This is not a paper book for your wife to find and make your miserable life even worse. You will need to discreetly download the book and save it onto your computer where your wife will not find it and you can read it in private.
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